Treat the room like a friend's dinner party. Be curious, be kind, take "no" gracefully, and tell us if something feels off — we'll handle it.
01 The values.
Doubles exists because the founders wanted a dating event they'd actually want to attend. The room only stays special if everyone in it understands what we're trying to protect.
This document is short on purpose. Most of it is common sense — the kind that doesn't always stay common at a party where people are drinking and trying to impress each other. Reading it once is plenty.
- Genuine over polished. We'd rather you be interesting than impressive. Bring the curiosity, not the résumé.
- Hosting energy. Treat the venue like it's your friend's home — because it is. Take your shoes off if they're off, use a coaster, help yourself but help the room too.
- Doubles, not solo. You came with someone. The night works when you both mix into the room rather than holding court as a pair.
02 What we expect.
Show up like you'd show up for a great dinner.
On time-ish (within fifteen minutes of doors) and dressed thoughtfully. If you're going to be more than thirty minutes late, text us so we can hold your seat at the Volley.
Listen as much as you talk.
The best Doubles nights are full of people who got curious about the person across from them. Ask a real second question. Remember someone's name. The room rewards attention.
Take "no" gracefully.
Not every introduction is going to spark. That's the point — we're putting thirty interesting humans in a room and seeing what happens. If someone's not interested in continuing the conversation, the right move is "lovely to meet you" and a graceful pivot to the next room. We notice the people who do this well, and we invite them back.
03 What's never okay.
The short list. If you do any of these, your evening ends.
- Harassment, intimidation, or stalking — at the event, in DMs after, anywhere.
- Unwanted physical contact, or following someone after they've left a conversation.
- Discriminatory or demeaning language about race, gender, sexuality, religion, disability, body, or background. We don't host that.
- Recording other guests without their consent. (See Privacy & photos.)
- Treating the room as a sales floor — pitching investors, soliciting clients, working the table for leads. Save it for Demo Day.
- Bringing someone other than the friend listed on your application without checking with us first.
04 Consent & chemistry.
Doubles is a dating event. Chemistry is the point. We are very pro flirting, very pro phone numbers, very pro breakfast plans. We are also very pro getting consent — explicit, enthusiastic, ongoing — for any physical contact, including the kind that "everyone does at parties."
If someone says they need to go check on their friend, end the conversation gracefully. If someone gives a half-hearted maybe, treat it as a no. Reading the room is a Doubles superpower — practice it.
If you connect.
Trade numbers, follow each other on Instagram, ask them on a real date. Most great Doubles outcomes happen after the night, on a Sunday morning at Tartine.
05 Alcohol & substances.
Doubles serves wine and cocktails. We don't impose a drink limit, but we do impose a behavior limit. If a guest becomes visibly impaired we'll quietly pull them aside, switch them to water, and — if needed — get them a ride home.
Doubles is a substance-free environment otherwise. Bringing or using anything else is a one-strike rule and we will ask you to leave on the spot.
06 Privacy & photos.
Our photographer captures wide shots, table settings, the speaker, and the venue. We do not publish candid photos of guests without consent. If you appear identifiably in a photo and we want to use it for marketing, we email you first.
Guests should not record other guests on phones during the event. Quiet selfies are fine. Posting the venue address, attendee names, or recognizable group photos publicly is not — protecting the room is part of being in the room.
The Volley is on the record.
The fireside chat itself may be recorded (audio or video) for partial publication afterward. Speakers consent in advance; the audience appears only in wide shots if at all. If you'd rather not be on camera during the Volley, sit in the back-left section — we frame around it.
07 How we enforce this.
Three levels, applied at the discretion of the founders.
We pull you aside.
Most issues stop here. Someone's being a bit much, a bit loud, a bit aggressive — we have a quick word, you adjust, the night continues.
You're on the list.
Repeated behavior, or a single significant lapse. You finish the night, but your application for the next volume is paused for review.
Your night ends.
Any item in §03, or non-compliance with §01. We get you a ride home and you're no longer invited to future volumes.
We talk to both sides whenever there's a dispute, and we err on the side of the person who feels unsafe. Your friend's continued invitation isn't tied to yours, and vice versa — we evaluate guests independently.
08 Reporting an incident.
At the event, find any member of the Doubles team — we'll have ball-yellow pins on. We'll handle it discreetly and immediately.
After the event, email safety@doubles.singles. We read this inbox every day, and a founder responds personally within 24 hours. Reports are confidential by default.
- Tell us what happened, in whatever level of detail feels right.
- Tell us what you'd like to happen, if you have a preference. (Sometimes the answer is "nothing, I just wanted you to know.")
- We'll confirm receipt, investigate quietly, and follow up with whatever action we've taken.
This code is a living document. We update it as we learn — last revised on May 14, 2026. Significant changes get sent to current applicants by email.